Intimacy reloaded: Spice up your marriage!
Should you give up on having a great sex life once you get married? Of course not. As the relationship evolves, intimacy tends to take a natural course of change. But, if you’re willing to put a little effort, you can have a healthy, fulfilling, and functional marriage with a spark that lasts.
Getting married and starting a family has a big impact on a couple’s sex life. As priorities start to shift towards the household responsibilities, careers, and raising kids, the sexual connection suffers due to lack of private time and exhaustion.
What can you do to prevent turning sex into a routine in your marriage?
Married sex is so much more than the intercourse and orgasms. It’s about having a special connection and openness to new experiences with your partner.
Work on your intimacy
Before you turn to intercourse, focus on the “outercourse” a bit. Intimacy can be as simple as talking, cuddling, massaging, kissing, or affectionately touching. Try to make room for this type of quality time with your partner and reconnect with intimacy. The important thing here is to make some moves that you know your partner enjoys sexually. Pay attention to what makes you two hot for each other, both in and out of the bedroom.
Schedule date nights
If you try to spontaneously squeeze in sex and intimacy between the regular daily activities, you may easily find yourselves deprived of those moments. As our lifestyle changes, it gets much more impossible to have spontaneous moments with your spouse, especially if you have kids. If you want to reconnect, you’ll have to schedule time for each other. Get a babysitter and book a hotel room, or spend the lunch break from work together, or start a hobby together… Try to make some time to have fun together, without thinking if it will end with sex. As you bring back the connection, sexual desire will come naturally.
Bring sexy back
It seems like we put all the blame on the modern lifestyle, but it really does turn us off. After all the work/home activities, we all find ourselves tired, in a desperate need of sleep, and a shower, too… So, many people can’t wait to get home, put on comfy sweatpants, an old t-shirt, take some snacks, crash on the couch, and maybe exchange a few farts and burps with the partner. Can you feel the sexiness in this scenario? Of course not. Being able to feel free with your partner is one of the beautiful things about being in a committed relationship. But, try to see yourself through your spouse’s eyes – would you hit that? If not, try keeping some refinement and charm at home, as you do when it comes to work or social gatherings. Seduce your partner over and over again, with every chance you get.
Spice it up!
Even in the best relationships sex becomes a bit monotonous after a few years. Assuming that you’ll be already working on the intimacy and your sexuality, this is where new experiences come into play.
Now it’s time to be playful, adventurous, creative, and confident! Now it doesn’t matter if you’re stressed, tired, or you have gained some weight, cause you can make it all go away and enjoy your sex life to the fullest. How, you ask? Pretty easy. Get a new lingerie – a naughty one.
Check out some new toys and lubricants. Take a bubble bath together – like the ones they you get excited to when you see it in a movie. Light some candles. Put on some music.
Try new spots and positions around the house. Make sure it’s going to last – try out a pill that won’t let daily stress and exhaustion get in your way.
Build up your sexual spark and treat yourselves, focus entirely on the sex as you would if it’s your most important work project, and see what happens. You’re welcome.
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